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The One Thing All Successful People Have In Common

Today is a special episode because this episode comes out the week of my 30th birthday. So I wanted to do an episode on if there was one piece of advice, I could look back and give my 20 year old self, when it came to business success, what would it be?

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What is it, that I would define as the key to my success? To your success? To anyone who has ever wanted to accomplish something or achieve something with a side hustle or a business of their own? Like, what would be the thing that I would define as the key to making that happen? So I'm going to talk about that in this episode.

Okay, so I want to preface this by saying that - of course, there could be a whole episode just defining what success is but success is going to look so different from person to person. I know personally, even my own definition of success has changed radically in the last two years, I achieved some big things and big milestones that I thought would make me “successful” and I just felt awful. I had a full on existential crisis like - is this it? Is this what I've been chasing this whole time? I've really radically redefined what success is recently. For me now, chasing success means chasing my own freedom, chasing the ability to help people and make a difference in the people that I know in life. But also, having the one thing that is so precious to everyone in life, which is freedom. Freedom of your time, being able to command your own time and decide when you want to work when you don't want to work, freedom to be able to say, you know what, I'm going to take my whole family away to this remote village somewhere. I want to talk about what I want to talk about, put out content that I'm passionate about, that’s freedom to me. And so that is how I am now defining success, not money in a bank account, not lists to appear on, not stages to talk on and I say that and there's absolutely no reason why for someone else, that stuff shouldn't be their definition of success, because it was mine for a long time.

So I think the first thing is defining what you think success looks like for yourself. Deciding, what we've talked about in previous episodes, what these goals are? What is the goal? Then, really try and pin it down, be specific, the more specific you can be, the more you can make steps and put in the action to build towards that success. But if it's just like a vague goal, it's going to be really difficult to kind of constantly feel motivated to do things. Ss o we've talked a little bit about, you know, the definition of success and definitely, I would encourage you to go away, and just sit with yourself and just write a list of what success looks like to you, and what that life looks like to you. Maybe even thinking about why it is that you're chasing that particular thing and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons for yourself, for the people that you love, not for chasing external validation, not for chasing the validation of people that you don't even know.

So, definitely do that.

But then what is, in my opinion, the key to that success? What is the common theme between everyone who has achieved success? What is the key to your success? What's the key to my success? What is the key to Warren Buffett, the most successful investor of all time success? What is the commonality? What about Steve Jobs? Like, what is the key to all of those people success? Including yourself, including your family's success?

Not quitting. That's it, it’s never giving up.

I know that's cheesy, I know that you're half expecting some cinematic music to come in but the pursuit of your success, the key to your success is just not quitting. The only way you can fail at this game of business is if you quit. Even companies, even successful entrepreneurs that have been bankrupt, who have literally lost everything have gone on to be successful because they didn't quit. Simon Cowell, for example, he’s always the one that sticks out in my head because I remember reading an article about famous people that had been bankrolled by the age of 30, which is very fitting for this episode. Simon Cowell is one of those people he was bankrupt at 30, I believe. Anyway, this was a while ago that I read this article and then obviously, he came back and became, you know, I don't know whether he still is, but he was one of the most successful people in the music industry, or one of the most recognisable names, at least for a long, long time. Same with RuPaul (shout out to any of my drag race fans out there) he was sleeping on his sister's couch at 30 years old with nothing. And now, he has gone on to create an empire, an actual empire with the drag race franchise.

Some of the most famous kind of brands that we know and love, weren't even started until the founder was like in their 60s 70s 80s. Walmart, for example, the founder of Walmart, I believe, was in his 70s, maybe 80s. He was like, you know, by most people's definition should have been done. He should have been just enjoying retirement, but now he started what has gone on to become one of the most successful supermarket chains of all time.

Quitting is not an option when you're doing something, when you're chasing something that you love. Quitting is not an option. That in itself is the key to success, the amount of times that I've had friends that have looked at what I've done in terms of my career and gone - whoa, yeah, I'll give that a go and then within a month of not getting any replies to their emails to do a side hustle like video gig…they’d rather stay in this nine to five job. Absolutely, fair enough, each to their own but if you love what you do, if you want to love what you do, if you want to chase this idea of success for yourself, and again, I don't want to be equating fame and money to success, because I genuinely don't believe that, that is all there is to success. If you want to chase a life that you love, that should be at the core of the success that you are chasing, the only way to achieve that is by not giving up because what other option do you have? You know, and if you feel like you're failing, if you feel like you know, you've been here for ages and you're just not motivated, you've been trying this thing for ages, maybe you do need to take a break, that's fine. You can take a week off a month or a year off but as long as you get back on track, as long as you come back to it, as long as you get back in the driver's seat of the car of your life (man, this is getting cheesy and cheesy by the minute) then you will be successful.

So that's it for this episode. I hope that that has inspired you or just even just made you rethink something. Sometimes it takes listening to a random attempted inspirational podcast like this to really just even trigger a thought and to go - oh, hang on a second, let me just get a better perspective again on what it is I'm trying to do. Let me redefine my goals, let me redefine what success is to me.

But please, please, please don't give up because that's the only way that you won't be successful. The key to your success is not giving up. Okay, that's it from me. I'm going to go celebrate this 30th birthday week.

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